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Whether
choosing to be single, or in between relationships, you can build a
terrific life as a single person. In fact, if you are in between
relationships and want to attract true love, having a terrific single
life is just the thing to do.
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Some
singles put their focus on the fact that they are single and end up
unhappy, dissatisfied and looking for meaning in their lives. Others
almost give up having a satisfying relationship and bury themselves in
work and busyness. Many singles believe either openly or secretly that
they cannot be truly happy without a relationship.




Single
or not, this is your life, your only life. This is not a dress
rehearsal for your life or a waiting room for your next relationship,
but your life, now. The surest way to have a happy life is not to get
into a relationship, but to build a life full of meaning and
satisfaction. As a bonus, when you do get happy in your life, you will
very likely effortlessly attract a great partner.
Below
are six major components for creating a happy single life with
explanations of why each one matters, and suggestions of how to add each
one to your life.

1. Community
What it means
Building
a community means having people who are there for you, who care about
you and your life. Community can meet many of your needs. The more your
needs get met, the less needy and the more attractive you become. Also,
the more needs get met, the less you need a partner. It's a good thing
to want to choose a partner, not need one. What's more, the more your
needs get met, the happier you get.

Why it matters
Many
singles feel lonely and disconnected, and it affects the quality of
their life. They act as if the only way to get emotional needs met is
through a partner.

What you can do
Build
community by joining clubs around subject matter that interests you or
by volunteering. Rekindle or strengthen community by reaching out to
people already in your life.

2. Life rich in pleasure
What it means
The
pleasure of time, space, rich surroundings, luxurious body care,
flowers, etc. are not just reserved for a lover to give as gifts. These
are gifts you can give yourself. Think of your life's outlook after
indulging in something nurturing and pleasurable, such as being in
nature, exercise, a good meal, etc. Doesn't life look full of promise?
Imagine a life rich in such moments of pleasure. Such a life would
greatly improve your quality of life and happiness level.

Why it matters
Many
singles forgo pleasure, time, and self-care for business or job. It is
as if they don't matter; only their accomplishments do.

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Add
three luxurious, pleasurable things to your day. These don't have to be
huge. Perhaps a ten-minute stroll, a few minutes reading a book, a cat
nap, a body-care product that smells or feels good, a sit-down meal.
Figure out what these three things are by remembering the last few times
you felt truly luxuriated.

3. Life lived now
What it means
Your
life happens now, today, and is not a dress rehearsal for when you have
a relationship. When you want to participate in life, but stop yourself
because you are single, you stifle your spirit. You accumulate
resentments for your singlehood at the universe and at the opposite sex,
because not being in a relationship stops you from living your chosen
life. On the other hand, living the life you want now enlivens and
energizes you. It gives you a sense of wellbeing, and happiness. Living
your life now makes you very attractive.

Why it matters
Many singles wait until they are in a relationship to live the kind of life they want and do the things they love to do.
What you can do
Figure
out what things you have not done because you have been waiting for a
partner. Which three sound the most fun, and give you the most charge
when you think about them? Those are the three to do now.

4. RelationshipSkillBuilding
What it means
There
is a real set of skills few of us know exists, and even fewer actually
have, that can guarantee you will attract good, compatible partners to
build a great, healthy relationship. The fact that you have not had a
successful life-long relationship so far does not mean there is
something wrong with you or that you are meant to be alone. It is truly a
matter of learning new skills.

Why it matters
Many
singles worry that they will continue to have unhappy, unsuccessful
relationships. Many believe there is nothing short of settling that can
be done about being single. Many fear they are meant to be alone.

What you can do
Put
yourself in relationship school. Read books about relationship skills,
go to workshops and seminars, hire a relationship coach. Keep learning
and becoming confident in your skills. Don't give up!

5. Putting the past in the past
What it means
There
is no surer way to spoil an otherwise great life than with resentments
and anger about what happened in the past. Most people know they need to
let go of the past and yet most believe that they cannot. There is a
real set of skills that few of us know exists, and even fewer actually
have, that can guarantee you will let go of all past hurts and
resentments. Bet that would improve your happiness level and the quality
of your life!

Why it matters
Many
singles hold on to what happened in the past as a way to prevent the
same thing happening in the future. Others hold on because they don't
know how to let go. Either way, the past drains your vital life energy.

What you can do
Learn
how to let go of your past. Put yourself in completion school. Read
books, go to workshops and seminars, hire a therapist or a coach. Keep
learning new ways to let go of the past, applying them, and gaining more
and more freedom.

6. Passion/Purpose/Vision/Action
What it means
Be
powered by passion about your life. Have a purpose for waking up in the
morning. Have a vision of your place in the world and what you want to
contribute to others. Take action about all of these. Single or with a
partner, your life's purpose is your own, and will energize you when
pursued. You will be happiest following your life purpose.

Why it matters
Many
singles are waiting for a relationship to infuse their life with
passion and purpose, not realizing that having a loving partner is not a
substitute for a meaningful life.

What you can do
Figure
out what makes time stop for you, what lights you up to no end, what
always fuels you with energy. What ever that activity is, it is a part
of your life purpose. Now get into action on that wonderful thing, and
let it lift you up and transform you.

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